Your stomach drops.

You just found out someone was gossiping about you when you left your work station.

Or maybe you logged onto Facebook and saw an old friend from college deleted you.

Perhaps you were driving your kid to school and someone flipped you off, even though you were in the right.

Maybe your ex’s new wife hates you and vocalizes it to others…. for no reason at all.

All of these situations hurt, ranging from minor annoyance to gut-wrenchingly painful. And all of us have gone through something of this nature, unfortunately. Why? Because we are human.

I’m here to remind you today that if someone is rude to you, gossiping about you, or just plain ol’ mean…. it has nothing to do with you, girl, and everything to do with them.

I know, I know. Sometimes hearing that doesn’t make it any better and it certainly doesn’t fix anything. However, it is imperative that you adopt this mindset: How other people treat you is a direct reflection of themselves, not of you.

This is one of my favorite quotes ^ because it is soooo true: “Hurt people hurt people.”

You deserve to take up space in this world, and you deserve to move forward with ease.

Even though you may need some time to cool off before giving this a try, the best course of action is to have empathy for the person who wronged you. They are broken in some shape or form where they think it is okay to tear down others in order to make themselves feel bigger. They are still healing. They are going about this in the wrong way. For this reason, we need to have empathy.

However, we don’t need to excuse the behavior. We don’t have to stoop to their level. Keep holding your head high and walking with your chin up.

It hurts when others say things about us.
This will never change.
We can’t control how others’ view us or treat us, but we can control our reactions.
Acknowledge the feeling, and know that the painful sting will get better in time.

I’m rooting for you, today and always. xo

xo, Chels

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